not bein grl owches.

wan be grl. wan… to live.

    • Smorty [she/her]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      6 days ago

      bt im nt…

      i look away from grls so they dun think im weird uncomf ew persn, trynna do evil.

      dis way they kno thad im like - not evn thinkin bout em… mayb gives sense of securiti.

      alsoalsoo, sadli its nt me who wud be lookn at grls, but dis ugly guy in mirror.

      like - ew, id be uncomf too lurkd at from thad guy…

      • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        i look away from grls so they dun think im weird uncomf ew persn, trynna do evil.

        I just wanted to say that this is a fairly universal sapphic feeling amongst both cis and trans women/femmes. Straight men don’t really ever think like this.

        • forwhomthecattolls@sh.itjust.works
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          yep, can confirm. I’ve even had cis and trans women/femmes tell me I look great and even hit on my oblivious ass but I still look away, hide my face/body (hoodies yay) from their view and stuff because I’m worried about this exact thing :') you’re not alone!!

          • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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            Few do, and def not to the extent you worry. This is because you are a trans girl who ties up the validity of her gender to not being “horny like a dude.” You get serious imposter syndrome from thinking sexual thoughts about women, which believe it or not, is quite common for transfems. To alleviate your dysphoria, you repress the desires you see as masculine.

            Honestly, this is all so goofy, because sexual activities and thoughts are perfectly fine and good for folks of all genders to engage in. Your own sexuality is nothing unnatural, evil, or inherently masculine. You’re just a useless lesbian like so many of us here :3

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              I think the only time it becomes invalid is when you start doing things to someone without consent. But if you’re just looking respectfully and thinking thoughts, that’s so fine. Flirting as well is more than reasonable, complimenting someone, offering your phone number (never ask for theirs, offering yours lets them choose later). Just don’t touch people! ✌️

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          Bisexual man, absolutely think like this, and I know plenty of straight men who do. People have treated us like wild beasts for so long that we try our absolute hardest to be invisible so that we don’t bother women with our presence.

      • sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works
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        God that sucks. I could say that you’re a wonderful woman temporarily placed into some dudes body which would be true, but I doubt helpful.

        I can’t know that pain. You’re always a pleasure on my feed though and I wish you the best. One day that beautiful lesbian will break out and some girls gonna be lucky to have her.

      • erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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        but smorty, your cute and beautiful and such a good lesbian, of course you dont wanna make girls uncomf, because you just get it, do you know why that is, because you are a girl and such a wonderful one at that, and any decent person should recognize that and see past all the flaws you see in yourself, because your not your body, simply contained by it, but that does not mean you need to trap yourself in a box of your own making. i believe in you smorty <3