not bein grl owches.

wan be grl. wan… to live.

  • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    i look away from grls so they dun think im weird uncomf ew persn, trynna do evil.

    I just wanted to say that this is a fairly universal sapphic feeling amongst both cis and trans women/femmes. Straight men don’t really ever think like this.

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      yep, can confirm. I’ve even had cis and trans women/femmes tell me I look great and even hit on my oblivious ass but I still look away, hide my face/body (hoodies yay) from their view and stuff because I’m worried about this exact thing :') you’re not alone!!

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        Few do, and def not to the extent you worry. This is because you are a trans girl who ties up the validity of her gender to not being “horny like a dude.” You get serious imposter syndrome from thinking sexual thoughts about women, which believe it or not, is quite common for transfems. To alleviate your dysphoria, you repress the desires you see as masculine.

        Honestly, this is all so goofy, because sexual activities and thoughts are perfectly fine and good for folks of all genders to engage in. Your own sexuality is nothing unnatural, evil, or inherently masculine. You’re just a useless lesbian like so many of us here :3

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          I think the only time it becomes invalid is when you start doing things to someone without consent. But if you’re just looking respectfully and thinking thoughts, that’s so fine. Flirting as well is more than reasonable, complimenting someone, offering your phone number (never ask for theirs, offering yours lets them choose later). Just don’t touch people! ✌️

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      Bisexual man, absolutely think like this, and I know plenty of straight men who do. People have treated us like wild beasts for so long that we try our absolute hardest to be invisible so that we don’t bother women with our presence.