That last paragraph speaks true to me. I’m not the kind of person to make a move. But with online dating, there is always romantic context.

“I’ve been seeing this person from the dating app for a few weeks now and I’m really attracted, we always have a great time, maybe I should ask if they’d like to kiss” is a lot easier than initiating intimacy without that context.

Dating apps are quite horrible, but I would have never met my girlfriend without them. We are both very shy and agree that even if we had met by chance, nobody would have ever made a move.

None of my women friends are romantically interesting to me and I’m not the kind of person who meets a lot of new people. I’m very happy with my small circle of friends and neither my job nor my hobbies expose me to new people.

A dating app helped me to work around that. I was very lucky though and the first person I met with turned out to be the perfect match for me.