Women also use dating apps for their own reasons, too. While its true there are a lot of socially inept men on them, I’m uncomfortable with your phrasing. It seems to be blaming men (and not women) for the apps’ existence.
Dating apps are mostly a reflection of a society with poor options for socialising organically. They’re trying to get people connected in a world that makes organic meeting places increasingly expensive or rare, or work hours that are particularly long and limit our energy and free time.
The world is also increasingly hostile to the ‘cold approach’. Dating apps are environments where men know they are allowed to interact with women, snd both can easily disengage from bad matches.That’s especially crucial for the more gentle men that don’t want to make women uncomfortable in the first place, since they would likely never cold approach, or feel uncomfortable admitting interest to their friends and acquaintances.
That last paragraph speaks true to me. I’m not the kind of person to make a move. But with online dating, there is always romantic context.
“I’ve been seeing this person from the dating app for a few weeks now and I’m really attracted, we always have a great time, maybe I should ask if they’d like to kiss” is a lot easier than initiating intimacy without that context.
Women also use dating apps for their own reasons, too. While its true there are a lot of socially inept men on them, I’m uncomfortable with your phrasing. It seems to be blaming men (and not women) for the apps’ existence.
Dating apps are mostly a reflection of a society with poor options for socialising organically. They’re trying to get people connected in a world that makes organic meeting places increasingly expensive or rare, or work hours that are particularly long and limit our energy and free time.
The world is also increasingly hostile to the ‘cold approach’. Dating apps are environments where men know they are allowed to interact with women, snd both can easily disengage from bad matches.That’s especially crucial for the more gentle men that don’t want to make women uncomfortable in the first place, since they would likely never cold approach, or feel uncomfortable admitting interest to their friends and acquaintances.
That last paragraph speaks true to me. I’m not the kind of person to make a move. But with online dating, there is always romantic context.
“I’ve been seeing this person from the dating app for a few weeks now and I’m really attracted, we always have a great time, maybe I should ask if they’d like to kiss” is a lot easier than initiating intimacy without that context.