• TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        11
        ·
        5 days ago

        There may be an order of magnitude more options, but an unfortunate amount of them were either raised wrong, or peer pressured into being terrible. The worst men are the ones who will seek you out the most, while people will healthy views on relationships are hard to sort from the sea of shitheads. Misogynistic bros raised on Andrew Tate who are sometimes good at hiding their worst impulses until after you get involved.

        It’s like there is a certain gendered wall that exists in straight dating that is far less pronounced in queer dating. Even a straight relationship between queer people has more mutual understanding. It’s not like abuse doesn’t happen in queer relationships, but there’s a culturally reinforced understanding of gender roles that makes it hard to feel secure.

    • gerryflap@feddit.nl
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      5 days ago

      I don’t understand this remark. They could also have found a loving and kind man? The dating pool is a lot larger so they have plenty of chances to pick a decent dude.

  • Secret Music@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    14
    ·
    5 days ago

    Holy shit, I was just thinking about my old online friend, who moved in with her boyfriend recently and who I haven’t heard from since. Then I saw this post straight away. It sucks. I should ask her how things are going but I’m pretty sure that friendship has to change.

    • Mac@mander.xyz
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      5
      ·
      edit-2
      5 days ago

      Reach out respectfully. You have little to lose and if it backfires then you didn’t have ‘it’ in the first place.

      • Secret Music@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        5 days ago

        Nah I don’t think I have to worry about anything backfiring and if I just say hi and ask what’s up. But I mean the talking all day and into the late hours is probably understandably a thing of the past now. At least for now, in the early days of her playing house and starting a new life.

  • riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    edit-2
    5 days ago

    ok so i found out about this charecter a few days ago from a lily simpson video so now i gotta ask: do you watch lily simpson too? owo

    • JackbyDev@programming.dev
      link
      fedilink
      English
      arrow-up
      6
      ·
      edit-2
      5 days ago

      I’m not entirely sure what character it is (forgot the name), but while watching Helluva Boss it stuck out that all female imps had horns like the right and male imps had horns like the left and that this particular character (or another, I don’t remember which, but it was the sister of the character on the right) was the first female that had horns like the males. I’ve never heard of Lily Simpson before. I always assumed the character was trans because of that.