TBH some people are terrible about responding to messages or emails (at least when they’re messaging/emailing me). I do hate phone calls, but they do somewhat force people to pay attention until you actually finish talking about whatever topic is at hand - and if they don’t, it’s much more immediately obvious that they aren’t interested.
Yeah, but the issue is that some people don’t use their (and my) time well. e.g. they outright stop responding for no apparent reason and weeks later pretend that nothing happened, or drag the conversation out by leaving out many of the important points of information in their replies, being unclear or misunderstanding what you wrote to them etc.
I normally tend to err on the side of ‘they’re not interested’ anyway, but sometimes this is from people who have known me for a long time and actually initiated the interaction. Make up your mind FFS!
TBH some people are terrible about responding to messages or emails (at least when they’re messaging/emailing me). I do hate phone calls, but they do somewhat force people to pay attention until you actually finish talking about whatever topic is at hand - and if they don’t, it’s much more immediately obvious that they aren’t interested.
Ok but messages and emails are so you can get to it when you have time.
An unscheduled call is demanding someone’s time without asking. Its rude.
Yeah, but the issue is that some people don’t use their (and my) time well. e.g. they outright stop responding for no apparent reason and weeks later pretend that nothing happened, or drag the conversation out by leaving out many of the important points of information in their replies, being unclear or misunderstanding what you wrote to them etc.
And calls don’t need to be unscheduled.
At that point I guess just read the room.
I normally tend to err on the side of ‘they’re not interested’ anyway, but sometimes this is from people who have known me for a long time and actually initiated the interaction. Make up your mind FFS!
This is me 100%
The preferring phone calls with some people, or the being terrible about responding?
Both