I think that while I understand that logically as that’s how I mentally can separate them from vegetarians… I don’t actually get it.

I don’t give a damn about vegans. And in a society of excess fail to understand how veganism (?) has a meaningful interaction with LGBT+ community besides there being a number of people who are both. I don’t even consider it to be political but I’m sure groups like that have lobbyists for something.

I definitely don’t see them as progressive and I wouldn’t look to a group of vegans to help defend my rights unless they were lgbtq+ specifically. Maybe that’s a perspective thing because I don’t care about what vegans are doing at all. To me, they’re just deciding their diet.

I had priorities and did research. I had rules I decided from the beginning. It took months to decide I even changed my mind a on somethings at the last minute

1. Initials I needed something to match my initials. That only changed slightly when I decided to make sure I didn’t have my sperm donors last name.

2. I needed my name to come from a similar part of the globe historically. I think nowadays I’d have done the same thing for different reasons. When I first made this rule I’d done it to respect my sperm donor despite everything. Then later on I kept it because I had already decided on this and it filtered out thousands of names. If I had to name myself today, this rule would mean that my name comes from the same area as my siblings, which honestly means it doesn’t stand out.

3. I needed the meaning of my name to matter. And I wanted something I’d always agree with. Personally I feel like I fucked up here. At the time I was extremely angry at my father and part of my name reflects that. Nowadays I wish I had picked something that embodied myself and wasn’t just an insult towards someone else. I don’t hate it but I feel like if I had gotten a second opinion I’d have gone with my other choice for a middle name.

4. It needed you sound a certain way, I needed saying first into middle to sound good. Not hard when they’re from the same region but that’s not always the case.

I think with this I only struggled to choose between 4-5 names and was going to put the number 2 or 3 pick as a middle name it worked out well for me. I think if I hadn’t gotten pissed off during the time before I legally changed my name I’d definitely have a different middle name though.