This issue isn’t rising to the point of leaving. There is nothing in the world that would make me leave her. I disapprove of her decision to keep smoking. I am disappointed that she knows how to quit and refuses to do so again. There is definitely an issue here, but at the end of the day I can’t and won’t force her to do anything. I am definitely not without my faults too. It pisses me off, but I’m not going to go all high horse on her.
But honestly, I don’t know what to do about it. I do have a low level resentment about it, but we really do have a great relationship otherwise.
Roll over. Do nothing. Accept that your wife is an addict and doesn’t care enough about you to even try to quit smoking when you’ve made it an issue.
Pester her to quit.
Ask for couples therapy.
Seperate/Divorce
Those are literally your only options. You do nothing or you do something. In either case, you’ve got to address it if you want to do anything about it.
We really do have a great relationship otherwise
Do you? You said that you wouldn’t have married a smoker and you still refuse to. She is relying on a crutch that is killing her and causing harm to your own health. You’ve asked her to do something about it. She won’t. This isn’t like her passtime is knitting or something. It’s a money sink that is detrimental to the health of everyone involved and everyone around it. She’s more willing to poison herself than even consider quitting. Is it really a great relationship if someone isn’t willing to change to protect themselves, their health and your health?
This issue isn’t rising to the point of leaving. There is nothing in the world that would make me leave her. I disapprove of her decision to keep smoking. I am disappointed that she knows how to quit and refuses to do so again. There is definitely an issue here, but at the end of the day I can’t and won’t force her to do anything. I am definitely not without my faults too. It pisses me off, but I’m not going to go all high horse on her.
But honestly, I don’t know what to do about it. I do have a low level resentment about it, but we really do have a great relationship otherwise.
Roll over. Do nothing. Accept that your wife is an addict and doesn’t care enough about you to even try to quit smoking when you’ve made it an issue.
Pester her to quit.
Ask for couples therapy.
Seperate/Divorce
Those are literally your only options. You do nothing or you do something. In either case, you’ve got to address it if you want to do anything about it.
Do you? You said that you wouldn’t have married a smoker and you still refuse to. She is relying on a crutch that is killing her and causing harm to your own health. You’ve asked her to do something about it. She won’t. This isn’t like her passtime is knitting or something. It’s a money sink that is detrimental to the health of everyone involved and everyone around it. She’s more willing to poison herself than even consider quitting. Is it really a great relationship if someone isn’t willing to change to protect themselves, their health and your health?